It seems like our country has a big of a relationship problem. We are not talking about the relationship in between the U.S. and Russia, but about the one between teens. Many of the young people in our country are pphubbing, widely understood as partner phone snubbing. It looks insignificant in the beginning, but pphubbing is actually ruining relationships.
This is not a collective preconception or something that somebody just came up with out of the blue, but a conclusion that was established by the Baylor University. Although pphubbing seems like an activity that can strengthen relationships, it actually creates a gap between the two, leading to a more complicated, cold and unhappy relationship.
In the University’s study, 46 percent of the people interviewed admitted to have been pphubbed by their loved one, but 22.6 percent also claimed that this activity has brought up issues in their relationships. Out of the 46 percent, 36.6 claimed that they felt depressed while they were being pphubbed. So it is very clear that there is an unhappy pattern somewhere.
James A. Roberts, a researcher who was part of the study commented that “What we discovered was that when someone perceived that their partner phubbed them, this created conflict and led to lower levels of reported relationship satisfaction.” And the phenomenon had a snowballing effect: unhappy partners thought they had unhappy lives and then fell down into depression.
Two surveys were conducted in order to confirm the suspicion that pphubbing was not ok. The first one was focused on phones, asking about how much phones an impact had on the relationship: where they were put when the two were together, how often they would get distracted by the phone, so on and so forth. The second survey was focused on determining how much couples practiced pphubbing.
Meredith David, another researcher involved in the project, claims that people, in general, assume that being distracted by their phones is not that much of a problem. But the worrying matter is that, if you are in a couple and you get distracted by your phone a lot, your partner’s level of satisfaction will go down, leading to a more stressful and less happy experience.
So remember: if you are spending some quality cuddling time, turn off your phones, or at least turn off sounds and vibrations off. There is really nothing more important than spending time with your beloved and your phone is clearly not an excuse.
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